Miscarriage/ still born

A miscarriage can be a distressing experience.  Apart from the emotional trauma of expecting a baby and then losing it, your body has been adapting to the changes of pregnancy and has to return to normal.

YOUR FEELINGS

A miscarriage is not a clear cut event, you probably felt frightened and helpless, and usually there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening. Often there is a series of phases

· Thinking it may happen, but not knowing if it will
· Perhaps ignoring symptoms in the hope that they will go away
· Worrying and waiting for your worst fears to be confirmed
· Having your hopes raised only to be dashed later
· And finally facing up to the fact the pregnancy has ended

You will feel helpless during the period of uncertainty, it is frightening because there is Nothing you can do to prevent it happening. Some cope well at the time, but then find a great sadness engulfs them later on.

EARLY MISCARRIAGE UNDERSTANDING THE PHYSICAL LOSS

After an early miscarriage you may find yourself struggling to make sense of what has happened to you.  It is difficult to talk about but knowing the nature of your physical loss can help you understand and make some sense of the experience.  In some cases there is an identifiable foetus, but for the majority of women there is no foetus only blood clots or tissue.  If you didn’t see the loss you may be left wondering, and it may be difficult to get information from the staff involved in your care.  If this bothers you talk to your GP.

LATE MISCARRIAGE - GIVING BIRTH

Before responding verbally or taking any further action use a breathing exercise to calm your racing pulse. Once your internal tension has subsided and you are sure that you are in control of your rage. Move on and congratulate yourself.

YOU CAN TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR ANGER IF YOU WORK AT IT.

National Numbers

MIND

Offers help and support , they hold group meetings where you can meet other people and will be offered help on ways to cope.

www.mind.org.uk

TONY DAVIS EMPLOYEE SUPPORT

Tel: 07813 596505 Or 01482 870577

Email: tonydavis@tonydavis.karoo.co.uk

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