Anger Management

Anger is a natural emotional response, which has evolved to help us cope with:

• Threat
• Hurt
• Violation
• Frustration

At some point in our lives, all of us will experience the feeling of anger at some degree.

The symptoms of anger are not just to be found in our emotions but also in our bodies, minds and behaviour. The exact nature of each individual’s response to the hurt and frustration in their lives will depend on very many factors.

“ I know I’ve got a problem with being violent. I feel so bad afterwards. It’s as if it didn’t really happen. She was nagging me the minute I came in and I just wanted to relax after work. She didn’t know when to stop so I started yelling so she should shut up. Next minute I had hit her and she was crying. I didn’t even think I had hurt her, even though she deserved it.”

“ Sometimes my temper scares me. I can’t stop myself from getting into a rage. Afterwards, I really regret it, I tremble and often feel sick in my stomach. People are afraid of me and I don’t want them to be. I need to sort this out once and for all. Rage can cost you everything family, friends, home job and even freedom.

Environment

The setting in which we experience the anger trigger can play a very important part in the emotional journey e.g. of someone bumping into you in different environments and the reaction you may have.

• A lively party (I might react with a humorous aside)

• A queue for a beach bar on a tropical island. (I might not even notice)

• In a corridor at work (I would expect an apology and be mad if I didn’t get one)

Culture

There are many factors to this. They range from the kind of country in which you were born to the ‘company culture’ you work in or the generation to which you belong. So the culture in which we were brought up and the culture in which you live will shape the kind of response you make to any threat, hurt or frustration. In fact your culture may influence whether you notice a trigger.

Breathe

Before responding verbally or taking any further action use a breathing exercise to calm your racing pulse. Once your internal tension has subsided and you are sure that you are in control of your rage. Move on and congratulate yourself.

YOU CAN TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR ANGER IF YOU WORK AT IT.

National Numbers

MIND

Offers help and support , they hold group meetings where you can meet other people and will be offered help on ways to cope.

www.mind.org.uk

TONY DAVIS EMPLOYEE SUPPORT

Tel: 07813 596505 Or 01482 870577

Email: tonydavis@tonydavis.karoo.co.uk

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